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Why Do We Bother

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Flat Land Andy's Goffer

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This is the first entry in my blog and is going to start with a moan I'm afraid.

My little man(9yrs old) is walking the Macmillan Way for Macmillan Cancer relief, 290 miles. He has completed 75 miles and you would have thought that he would get encouragement from his nearest & dearest, wouldn't you. But oh no!

I emailed his Grandad today(the only one he has got I hasten to add, as my dad died from cancer almost a year to the day before he was born), just to confirm that he will be here on christmas morning. My husband is the eldest of his two children and my little man is his only grandchild and the only one he will ever have.

The last two years we have actually had to chase him up during mid morning of Christmas day and one year actually had to phone around petrol stations to find out where there was one open, because he said he hadn't got enough petrol to get here. This is depsite the fact that he actually lives directly opposite a petrol station and complained that it was a 24 hour petrol station and could not understand why it had closed at 10pm on Christmas Eve. He is a retired CID police officer.

Well anyway he knows that Adam is walking the Macmillan Way on 27th & 28th Dec, it is his birthday on 29th and is walking again on 30th & 31st. His grandad has said that he cannot be bothered to come over this year(he has no other committments and his other son will be here as he comes every Sunday) and that his uncle should take him over on the 26th or 27th and he will take him out and treat him to something.

When Adam asks why Grandad's not coming I did not know what to say really other than he can't make it, but I know Adam will ask why as he knows Grandad has no-one else in his life and he knows that he is not going to be able to go over on the 26th and that he is walking on the 27th. That means that he is not going to see his Grandad for christmas or his birthday yet again!

Why exactly do we bother with people that cannot even show an interest in their own grandchildren. Their grandchild who has endured seeing their mother(me) suffer with cancer, their nanny die of cancer(my mum) and their only anuty(my sister) die of cancer within 16weeks of one another! Sometimes I just want to scream at them and say for goodness sake take an interest, you don't know what youv'e got until its not their anymore!

Sorry end of moan. Knowing Adam he will take it in his stride and just say "whatever"

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It seems he could be sufering depression and is taking it out (in a sort of way) against his remaining family.

Being +ive : great dedication by your lad :D and good on you for fighting the cancer. It has really hit me (due to family & friends suffering) in the last year how widespread cancer is and how many forms of it there are.

My sister in law to be's Mum has suffered with and recovered from breast cancer in the last 12 months or so and is full of praise for Macmillan :) .

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It seems he could be sufering depression and is taking it out (in a sort of way) against his remaining family.

Being +ive : great dedication by your lad :D and good on you for fighting the cancer. It has really hit me (due to family & friends suffering) in the last year how widespread cancer is and how many forms of it there are.

My sister in law to be's Mum has suffered with and recovered from breast cancer in the last 12 months or so and is full of praise for Macmillan :) .

Thanks for this Andy. Sorry to here about your friends & family but glad that people you know have had a positive experience with Macmillan. They were great when I was diagnosed and fantastic when my dad was dying. There are only 4 of us in my immediate family, me, my mum dad and sister and they have all died from cancer so I know what it's like to have those you love suffer from this disease, but what some people seem to forget is that it doesn't just affect the person with cancer, but all those around them. That is why Adam is so determined to help.

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